Things That Hurt Our Ministries

WYN Network Christmas Party 2011
I consider myself lucky to be in a network of youth pastors in the Wilmington area that meat regularly to encourage and pray for one another.  Each meeting brings a topic of discussion.  On March 27, our topic was:

Things That Hurt Our Student Ministry (Youth Pastors Brain Storming)

  • Poor Leadership
    • Leaders who are good people but not good with students.
    • Leaders the seek your position of leadership
  • Teen Romances (Drama from Teens Dating In The Youth Group)
  • Competitive Churches (Trying To Be Like The Church Down The Street)
  • Church Politics (Stay out of Fights and Quarrels that take away from your mission)
Jonathan Cockrell from Scott's Hill Baptist Church offered these things that hurt our ministry after our time of open discussion.

  1. Operating In Fear
  2. Operating In The Empty
  3. Operating In Spontaneously
  4. Operating Without Accountability
What areas have you seen that hurt your ministry?

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Don't Take It Personal

Ministry Tip: Don't Take It Personal

Sometimes I wonder how so many people that I and other church staff help seem to forget those moments and either turn on you or run away.  It breaks my heart at times to see teens and families drift away from what God wants for them.  Even after all these years in ministry I am reminded by God's word to not take it personal when people fail you.  They like I am human and imperfect.  It's not about them or me for that matter. It is all about God. When Jesus was on the cross, He was able to say,

"Forgive them they know not what they do" Luke 23:34

As Jesus hung on the cross and stared into the same faces that three days earlier were waving palm branches and praising His name, He was able to not take it personal.  He knew it was not them but the sin within them that was attacking Him.  The same sin that caused his followers to run and hide.  The same sin that His death was about to atone for.  Don't stop loving and serving people because they hurt you, it's not them but the sin within them. It's not about them or ourselves, it's all about  Jesus!


Why I Blog

No one ever starts a blog with the aspirations of keeping it out of date.  Some of my friend have even decided to stop blogging because they didn't want the pressure of keeping it up.  When I first started my blog I wanted to "be-like" others in my circles that seemed to inspire with every post.  I also, wanted to be able to express myself in ways other than the social media posting related to my ministry and events.  There are a few reasons for my blog absences. 1) There has been nothing to say 2) I have been really busy 3) What I wanted to say would not be beneficial. I see this blog more as a reflection of the overflow of what God is doing in my life and for that reason I will make a better attempt at posting here.  God is my all in all and without Him I would be nothing. He shows me everyday that I shouldn't try to be like everyone else but just focus on what He wants me to be.

Also, I included this picture of our Dog Baxley and I with Donna in Myrtle Beach for our weekend getaway.  He turned 11 yesterday. We treasure every moment God gives us with him.


A Lesson From My Dog

Each year Baxley our 11 year old lab/beagle goes to the vet for his yearly check up, shots, etc.  The Vet and staff always remark about how active he is for his age. He is beginning to show signs of age as his eyes begin to get cloudy, black fur turns white and fatty tumors start to form on his body.  The vet says this is normal for a dog "his age" so no worries yet. The Vet then made a comment that forced me to tears.  Regarding the subject of Baxley aging, he said, "His body will probably give out before his spirit will".  I pray the same could be said of me.



Philippians 2:5-7 (New Living Translation) 5 You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. 6 Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. 7 Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form.

Dear Heavenly Father, why should I feel like I am entitled to anything when your son Jesus Christ did not.  He chose to humble himself as should I.